Singularity
I guess it has been a societal norm for so long that I’ve never really thought too much about those of my male friends who are “confirmed bachelors”. By that, I mean guys who simply aren’t “suited” to be in a relationship. They’re heterosexual, they’re within the realms of normality, they don’t hate women. They are simply single men, as have existed throughout society. Women, on the other hand, who have chosen to remain single, or indeed even those who have remained single by fate and not by choice, have traditionally been regarded as somehow being undesirable, labelled as “spinsters” or “frigid” or some other negative term. But, in recent years I’ve noticed more women deliberately choosing to be single. Either choosing to step away from the relationship arena or choosing only to visit the arena for casual dates now and then. These women that I know are not unattractive, to the contrary, all of them are quite definitely attractive and desirable; they are smart, they are warm and loving individuals. They are heterosexual, they don’t hate men, they usually have great relationships with male friends. For whatever reason, whether it be “failed” relationships, or simply The One never showing up, or because they just feel more comfortable in their own homes and their own skins without the desire or “necessity” to have a full-time partner, these women have made the conscious choice to be single. And they are just fine with that.
Five years ago, one year ago even, I could never have imagined myself even contemplating joining these women in their singularity
. . . but I find myself nowadays thinking from time to time that just maybe that will become my choice also. I don’t hate men, I adore them, I don’t know what I would do without certain of them being in my life. It’s just that I have spent so much of my life trying to be somebody who can make somebody else happy that I may have simply forgotten to attend to my own happiness.