Buy Sex You All?
Human sexuality has long been a topic of fascination for me (big surprise there). Aside from the obvious physical and hormonal interest in sex, I am a very analytical person and I tend to study and research the things that interest me. Today I’m going to ponder another area of sexuality, that of homosexuality vs. bisexuality.
First off, let me say that I don’t consider myself to be remotely homophobic, but I allow that others may see me that way. I have gay friends and acquaintances of both genders and I’m perfectly comfortable with both. I have no discomfort in hugging them, cuddling them, sleeping next to them. I also have no interest in having sex with them (OK, with one female exception). I think I have only been hit on by a lesbian one time and she, like several other no-doubt lesbians, slept with more men than me. On the flip side, I’ve had a number of gay men tell me that while they are in no doubt that they are gay, they would also be happy to have sex with me! I’ve been to both gay and lesbian night clubs. The lesbians pretty much ignored me while the gay guys complimented my breasts, dragged me onto the dance floor, ground their groins against me, all the while giggling and waving at their boyfriends. Rudy, the manager at Numbers, who I adore, has been in a monogamous relationship with his partner for well over 20 years. But, Rudy loves boobs. Loves them. My price of free admission is to show Rudy my boobs and sometimes he’ll even giggle and tweak a nip. The first time I was rather taken aback and whispered something like “you DO know you are gay, right?” I think that I am going to coin a cutesy new phrase here: Hetero-curious.
I think, and this is purely my own theory, that gays and lesbians are perfectly capable of stepping outside of their true preference in order to have a no-strings sexual experience, but when it comes to true love, they seek within their preference. I have one lesbian friend who had a terrible habit of getting infatuated with bisexual women. I finally advised her: Dahling, you really need to stay away from bi chicks, when it comes to other women, they’re only looking for sex.
Why is it that the vast majority of flaming heteros are either extremely stimulated or at the very least quite neutral about the idea of two women making love, and yet, those same people are absolutely repulsed at the idea of two men going at it? I think there is a clear indication from the wording I just used as to how we respond differently when faced with the idea of bi women vs. bi men. I think perhaps a more accurate term for bi women would be “bisensual” because two women together is about sensuality, softness, silkiness. Two men together? sex, rutting, grunting, sweating. See the difference?
Somebody recently sent me an email that demonstrated this theory in photographic simplicity. First a photo of two beautiful women sleeping naked and entwined, with a caption that said: “Why women are sexy together”. Beneath that there was a photo of two naked, fat, sweaty, hairy guys lumped together. The caption? “… and why two men together are NOT!” I think that sums things up well. For the vast majority of us, no matter how attractive two men may be, we simply are not turned on by the thought of them having sex together.
What it comes down to for me is this: I don’t care if you are straight, gay, bi, bi-curious, hetero-curious, or a little toasted at the edges … UNLESS you want to have sex with me.
Current Mood: 
mischievous